Relationship Advice – Tips To Remember

The only person you can really change is yourself, and by changing your own behavior you will be able to alter your partner’s behavior.

It is very important, though often difficult, to talk together if you have problems.

The safest way to do this is to call a truce and set up ten-minute discussion sessions.

You should prepare a script with two points each to talk about.

You should divide the time equally between you.

If arguments happen you could either try to let them run on and end by ‘agreeing to differ’ or stop the session and plan another one in a day or two.

The principles of good communication are to be brief, positive, specific, show empathy and be sensitive to your partner’s feelings.

These principles can be included in your timed talk sessions.

Negotiation depends on converting complaints to wishes, and wishes to tasks. The tasks should be practicable and roughly equal between you, and they may be monitored week by week.

If you are working as an individual to help your relationship problems, you should become a good behaviorally orientated therapist and reward the behavior you want to encourage, while ignoring that which you want your partner to stop.

These methods do not provide a cure for your problems, but should give you a new way of controlling them.