John Gray, in his entertaining but also quite serious book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, makes an important point about the differences between men and women with respect to their relationship issues and difficulties.
Not only do they speak ‘different languages’ but they respond differently to the crises in their relationship issues. Men, he says, retire to their caves, withdraw and think out the problems and then come back with a solution (or without a solution). Women like to talk it over, and can’t understand when their male partners don’t seem to want to do this.
Misunderstandings and deeper relationship issues arise between men and women when they fail to realize that the partner doesn’t react as they themselves would react. The man may feel that he has done all that is necessary to be appreciated, and can’t understand why the woman is being illogical in this way. The woman may feel that her partner is failing to understand that she has times (perhaps hormonally determined) when everything seems wrong, and that all she needs is to be given time and sympathy.
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